Being refused to marry due to not being in the same tribe

Qn51: I live in England and I’m 26, I started practising Islaam about six years ago and I am of the Salafi ‘aqeedah and manhaj. A Salafi brother proposed to me but my parents rejected him because he isn’t from the same region and tribe as ours in Pakistan. Then, another brother came to propose; we sat with my parents but he was also rejected because he isn’t of the same tribe as ours. I tried to convince my parents for close to five months but in vain. I know that getting married without a Walee isn’t permissible, but in my situation, having a father who prays but believes that the Awliyaa are a way to Allaah ‘Azza wa Jal, a suitor who cannot wait any longer – what should I do?

Ans.51: O my daughter, convey my salams to your father; say to him that Ubayd al Jaabiree sends his salaams to you and that I convey the hadeeths of the Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam who said that if a person comes to you for marriage and you are pleased with his religion, his behaviour and his manners, then you should marry him otherwise there will be much fitnah (tribulation) on the Earth and there will be great fasaad (problems) and in another narration ‘big problem’.
 
Secondly, it is not a condition for a suitor (proposing for marriage) to be of the same country or city rather he doesn’t even have to be from the same tribe. So my advice to your father is that he should abandon this condition and he should marry you to this brother who is saahib as-Sunnah (companion of the Sunnah). When Bilal bin Rabah, one of the companions, who was originally from Abyssinia (Africa) and he was married to the sister of Abdur-Rahman bin ‘Awf (radhi Allaahu ‘anhum) and she was from the Quraysh, the greatest of the tribes and he was a slave who married someone from the greatest tribe.
 
Thirdly, you have to be patient and hope for the reward of Allaah ‘Azza wa Jal. If you were in a Muslim country, you could go to the Islamic judge but since you are in a non-Muslim country, it is not permissible for you to go to the courts about this situation. So convey sincere salaams to your father and hopefully he will rush to marry you and don’t forget to make lots of du’aa to Allaah ‘Azza wa Jal that He makes your situation easy for you. Be patient and seek Allaah’s reward.